Wait for What’s Right

This past weekend was the time of celebration for my anniversary with the love of my life. We have been together for 2 beautiful years. This is most definitely not my “normal” post, but it is too significant of feelings for me to not share.

I want to talk about the importance of not settling for someone, especially in today’s world. 2 years ago my journey into embracing my femininity and traditional values had not begun. I was in college and was enjoying the life that I had at that point in time. My foundation in my beliefs and values was always there and the job that I had at the time was reinforcing those ideals.

I used to think that my expectations of a man were going to be unreasonable and unattainable so I pretty much came to terms with the fact that I would have to “settle” or compromise in some key departments. I felt like this in my past dating experiences, and it was overwhelmingly quite disappointing. I didn’t know why I would have to settle and, quite frankly, I had come to terms with the fact that maybe I was not supposed to find someone for me, or maybe it was supposed to happen later down the road. I took that opportunity to dive into school, I dove into researching graduate school programs, committed to taking the LSAT, and told myself (as well as pretty much everyone around me) that I was going to go to law school after graduation. 

The man that I am with is nothing short of amazing. Through my interpersonal growth, some struggles along the way, and oh so many adventures he has been able to love and support me through all of life’s journeys and my countless endeavors. 

I think that the past 6 months have been a really good time for a lot of people to introspectively dig into what is important to them when it comes to relationships and their life goals. I have seen many break-ups, many engagements, and many baby announcements. I like to view all of these things as positive because I believe that there is a plan for all of us that is greater than ourselves. I see large life changes as an opportunity to live the most fulfilled life. 

How does this relate to my relationship and anniversary? 

Meeting Jake was one of the most rewarding moments of my life. I felt comfortable around him very quickly and I knew that there was something different about him. I was so intrigued and I wanted to know more. From the very beginning, we spent a lot of time together, as we still do, but I was learning so much so quickly and falling in love at a speed that I had never known before. I had reservations because I was looking for points that I would have to settle or compromise on, but those moments never came up. Ultimately, I was being pursued by a respectful and mature man that was taught how to treat a woman in a dignified way.

For the past 2 years, there have not been things that I feel like I am settling on, and I feel so lucky to have a man in my life that understands the importance of being a man and taking on the responsibility and maturity that it entails. 

I think that it is so important for women to know that there is a person out there for you, specifically for YOU, that will complement your strengths and help you stay strong in your weaknesses. I know that it is incredibly cliche, but “when you know, you know”. All of your previous relationships will seem so minuscule and there will be someone in your life that you cannot help but love and care for. They will support your endeavors and journeys by being right there alongside you throughout all of it. 

Unfortunately, there is no equation for how to find your perfect man, but if you are looking for him please know that he will come to you if you put yourself in a respectable position where people know that you are looking. All that I can really tell you is that when your person comes along, there will not be a doubt in your mind that they are the one for you. You won’t wonder what your life would be like if you were with someone else. Your focus and heart will finally be able to rest and realize that the person you are with is exactly where you are meant to be.

If you are on your journey to find a partner I would encourage you to spend time working on yourself. Take a few moments to think about what you are looking for in a partner and really dive into channels that will connect you with a mature and respectful man that will understand the significance of pursuing a woman. If you aren’t sure where to start feel free to reach out to me, I would be delighted to have a conversation to learn about your interests to make sure that you’re being intentional with your time.

If you already have someone in your life I would encourage you to spend some time thinking of ways to bless him and focus on showing your love and respect for him in a way that he easily receives. I am so excited to be putting together a post on ways that I show my man that I love, appreciate and respect him. 

Regardless of your relationship status, I would challenge each and every one of you to consider if you feel as though you are “settling” in your relationship. It is important for you to know that your time is precious, your attention is valuable, your heart is fragile, your soul is to be nurtured, and your love is priceless.