Nurturing My Values During the Holiday Season
Hello, beautiful readers! In an effort to keep my content as prevalent as possible I wanted to touch on some topics throughout the holiday season that would, hopefully, be beneficial to you. The reason I choose to write about this topic today is that throughout this holiday season I will need to remember these things for myself.
If you are newly embarking upon your femininity journey, as I am, then there is a great chance that you will be surrounding yourself with some people who are not yet aware of your metamorphosis into your feminine state. There may be some stress that you are experiencing around seeing those people again, which is something that I can completely understand. They may be used to a bit of a different person, and I know that answering a million personal questions throughout the holiday season can be truly exhausting.
During this holiday season, I am going to be implementing a wardrobe that is comfortable and effective in conveying my femininity. I have found that wearing clothes that express my femininity and that I am comfortable in is a great way to have an outward display of my femininity. This is something that I try diligently to implement in my daily working life. I have found that when I am wearing more feminine clothing people address me differently, as opposed to when I wear less feminine outfits I tend to get steamrolled because my feminine personality remains the same regardless of what I am wearing. Try to find some pieces of clothing that are suitable for the climate and situation that you are in or will be traveling to, make sure to try them on and ensure that you can complete your normal tasks, as well as maintain an outward appearance of elegance and femininity.
I will also be continuing to embrace my gentler side. Prior to coming into my feminine self, I was more up-front, a bit more abrasive, and more open to my personal life than I would have liked. This was a coping mechanism for me because I felt an inherent need to fit in with my surroundings, as many people do. I figured that if I was able to relate to someone, even at the expense of spilling into my personal life, then it made me feel more comfortable. Since eagerly embarking on my femininity journey, I have felt an overwhelming sense of comfort, peace, and contentment in just being myself. No longer is there a need to feel as though I need to “keep up with the Joneses” or throw myself into the rat race.
I will be maintaining the feminine mystery this holiday season because I have learned this year that there is so much more to have a conversation about than random superficial topics. Especially when those people are family, close friends, or in-laws, there should be some kind of beneficial tone to the conversation. Try to ask about their year, what did they enjoy most about their year, what are they looking forward to in 2021, etc. These are all conversation starters that will not only spark conversation but also spark thought within the conversation which is very likely to continue a conversation without much work on your behalf. When conversing with friends, family, and other loved ones I try to create a conversation that would allow me to learn something interesting and new about them. This is a great way to bond with another person during the holidays.
The other main thing that I will be doing this holiday season is not being afraid to be feminine with my actions. This year has shown me to provide more active listening skills and show my love in a bit more of a hands-on approach with my man. This is, by no means, a reason to be overly affectionate in public or make those around us uncomfortable, but rather laying my hand on his leg or arm when he is speaking appropriately. This is a great way to remember to look at that person in the eye when they are speaking and engage in what they are saying. I have also learned that it is OKAY to give a hug or kiss on the cheek when you are wanting to show your boyfriend/fiance/husband that you are appreciative of them. Many men value physical touch very much, and it is important to maintain that through the holidays, even if there are family gatherings to attend. Know the time and place for all physical touch and be sure to maintain a sense of maturity and feminine reservation with your choices of touch. As feminine women, we still need to remain classy and elegant when we want to show our significant other that we appreciate that they are with us, value their company, and recognize that you are present with them as their partner (not their opponent).
These are a few ways that I will be maintaining some of the more nerve-racking aspects of femininity this holiday season. If you will be traveling to visit family and friends, I would encourage you to think about what areas of your femininity might be challenged due to questioning, comfort, or reverting to what others knew you as this holiday season. It can be so easy to fall back into old ways, but the only way to make new habits and sustainably implement femininity is to practice in a wide variety of situations.
Good luck my feminine readers, please do not hesitate to reach out to me through the comments, Instagram, or email with any questions.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
